Proverbs 25:9–18 (NKJV)
9 Debate your case with your neighbor,
And do not disclose the secret to another;
10 Lest he who hears it expose your shame,
And your reputation be ruined.
11 A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold
In settings of silver.
12 Like an earring of gold and an ornament of fine gold
Is a wise rebuker to an obedient ear.
13 Like the cold of snow in time of harvest
Is a faithful messenger to those who send him,
For he refreshes the soul of his masters.
14 Whoever falsely boasts of giving
Is like clouds and wind without rain.
15 By long forbearance a ruler is persuaded,
And a gentle tongue breaks a bone.
16 Have you found honey?
Eat only as much as you need,
Lest you be filled with it and vomit.
17 Seldom set foot in your neighbor’s house,
Lest he become weary of you and hate you.
18 A man who bears false witness against his neighbor
Is like a club, a sword, and a sharp arrow.
Keep your personal disagreements private, or your embarrassing debate will become public. Words that are spoken well, with edification and blessing, are valuable, like gold and silver. When you represent your friends honestly and well, it is refreshing to them. Don't brag about your generosity. Don't give up easily. Don't take too much of a good thing. Don't wear out your welcome with friends. Don't lie about your friends! These truths are full of references to relationships. How you resolve conflict, how you speak to one another, your integrity with your friends, your tenacity, your respect of others boundaries, and your honesty with others all describe how to have healthy relationships. Live well and be wise!